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Non-Monogamy Resource Round-Up

Over the last few months, I’ve started to see more and more incoming requests for an overview of non-monogamy resources, to the point where it’s become more practical to post them here than reply to everyone who asks. Feel free to be intimidated by the wall-of-text and run away, but I think skimming may be more useful!

 

Useful, Random Internet Stuff

Franklin is a guy I met on LiveJournal who happens to write some good poly / consensual non-monogamy stuff; his intro page is here: http://www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html   The Polyamory 101, Practical Jealousy Management, and Making Relationships Suck articles linked too on the front page are all a good read, and there are a bunch of other practical entries linked to on the right hand side, He also writes about jealousy and refrigerators here! http://tacit.livejournal.com/157242.html

Gestalt is an ex-lover of a podcaster I discovered very early on when I was starting to research relationship models. He wrote this, and honestly, I just like this because it’s about burritos: http://polytripod.blogspot.com/2009/04/pgs-seven-layer-burrito-of-intimacy.html   And this guy writes polyamory and dim sum metaphors: http://whatexit.org/tal/mywritings/dimsum.html   Clearly I’m obsessed with food and food metaphors.

The Polyamorous Misanthrope is a very good blog; lots of common sense: http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/
The archives are huge and full of interesting of posts, but three I bookmarked for myself were these ones:

Am I Ready For Polyamoryhttp://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2008/11/03/am-i-ready-for-polyamory/

The Key Factor to Polyamory Relationship Successhttp://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2010/10/05/the-key-factor-to-polyamory-relationship-success/

Handling Jealousy: How to Fuck Uphttp://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2010/08/18/handling-jealousy-how-to-fuck-up/

Also there’s an interesting blog called Polyamory in the Newshttp://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com – which follows non-monogamy news from a more political and analytical point of view, which is a really nice break from interpersonal/communication/relationship stuff, which can get a bit overwhelming. (One of the things I’ve been learning in the past year is to try to back off sometimes and have a break from trying so goddamn hard. But it’s hard for perfectionists to try hard to back off from trying hard!)

 

Forums and Podcasts

Minx does the PolyWeekly podcasts, which are generally good value – there’s a huge archive, full of interesting stuff:  http://polyweekly.com/   I haven’t caught up with the podcasts during 2011, so not sure whether the quality of the content has remained high, but I was planning on downloading a whole bunch this month to see. It’s generally been a good resource in the past.

There are also forums on the PolyWeekly site – I don’t check in much anymore (used to a couple of years ago) – I’ve made a couple of good friends via the forum, but they tend to go through their cycles of good and snarkystupid fail (very much like any internet forum).

There are a couple of Australian forums – I have logins for most of them, but haven’t spent any significant time there, so can’t vouch for the quality. One of the main ones is PolyOzhttp://polyoz.net.au/home

To be honest, after spending a little while on forums to get an idea of what people’s lives were like, I stopped looking at forums entirely. They’re so very full of people looking for support with their problems, and so lacking in people talking about enjoying the life they’ve chosen. Maybe worth a browse, but at least for me, far from being a really positive resource.

 

Books

There are also an increasing number of non-monogamy books out there, often from wildly differing points of view (although I’m sure you have a pretty good bullshit detector). I have these ones, which I’m always happy to lend out:

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships:  http://www.amazon.com/o/ASIN/157344295X
(Tristan Taormino’s quite an interesting woman – she’s a pornographer, writer & sex educator, and has quite a good site full of non-monogamy resources too – http://www.openingup.net/ Because I am a big perve, I will also note that she is just gorgeous.)

The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities:  http://www.amazon.com/o/ASIN/1890159018
(This is the first major book written on the subject that I know of; it’s a bit fluffy, ‘love is awesome’ -esque for me, but it is interesting historically.)

Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage:  http://www.amazon.com/o/ASIN/158005241X
(Nathalie’s late dog, Tessa, chewed this on up a bit, but it’s still good! It’s partly a narrative of the author’s experiences, with some more abstract discussion, if I recall.)

The Polyamory Handbook:  A User’s Guide:  http://www.amazon.com/o/ASIN/1434373444
(Pretty thorough and pragmatic; haven’t looked at it for a while, but I think it ticks off most of the major areas worthy of consideration.)

 

New sites I’ve noticed recently but haven’t had time to look at yet; do not vouch for quality of content (let me know if they’re dreadful!):

http://www.notyourmothersplayground.com

http://www.modernpoly.com

http://polytical.org

http://www.polyday.org.uk

http://worldpolyamoryassociation.net

http:///www.polyamory.org.uk

http://www.lovemore.com

 

There are also a few other areas that are really worth taking some time to look into, although they’re wall-of-text topics in their own right:

Sexual-health:  Having open, specific and honest conversations, negotiating boundaries and engaging less awkwardly in a discussion of expectations and needs before entering a new relationship.

Communication:   Spending some time reading general information on human communication in interpersonal relationships is so very worthwhile – I can’t overstate the importance of this one. The thing is, we’re not innately good at this (and rarely culturally conditioned to be). My personal experience is that it’s most valuable to look at this as an ongoing process, not as an end-point – owning our fuck-ups is equally important as doing things well in the first place, and we all make mistakes.

Consent & boundaries:  As much as I wish these were easy, clear-cut issues, they’re not. It’s worth – for any human being – putting some serious thought into this area. My own experience is that these issues really come into the foreground when one can’t cruise on ‘this is how ordinary relationships work’ privilege, and that as a socially anxious person, I’ve needed to learn some skills around having conversations I find fundamentally awkward, in spite of the awkwardness.

Kink:   There’s certainly a cross-over between the kink community and the non-monogamous. I suspect it’s because non-monogamy is often a doorway to asking for what you really want, and raising new ideas that are often intimidating to raise. But the non-monogamy community is not the kink community, and it’s important to say explicitly that no-one with an interest in different relationship models should ever feel pressured to be involved in anything beyond their own wishes. I realise that this is obvious, but also that it’s sometimes challenging to see something normalised in a community and to feel some social pressure to conform.

Slut-shaming:  There’s always going to be someone who’s going to deal out some slut-shaming. Such is our messed-up existence, and it’s not a bad idea to be aware of it and do some reading or talking on it. If it happens to you and you’re not dealing with it well (or start to worry that there’s some validity in it), the best approach can be to hand a little of your concern over to your friends or community. Hopefully you will find a kick-ass friend who can shout ‘bring it!’, hug you, and remind you that slut-shaming has roots in intolerance, bigotry and privilege.

Mental health:  Put some time into examining and caring for your own mental health. Just do the work. I cannot conceive of anything more important than this.

 

Social, aka You Are Not The Only One

For the locals, we have a small and friendly Perth meetup on the first Wednesday of every month (it’s usually at The Court, is purely social – drinks/coffee/food/no agenda) and can vary between around ten and twenty-something people on any given month. We get all sorts of people coming along; those in multi-person households, stable but open relationships, parents with kids, singles, non-monogamy-friendly people who aren’t currently looking for anyone new and so forth. In the last year we’ve started to do some thinking around pub meetings not being as inclusive for everyone as we’d like, and are keen to run some other things in 2012; picnics, rock-climbing and more have been suggested. You can get notifications by signing up to the super-low-volume announcement list here: https://groups.google.com/forum/#!forum/perth-poly-meetup   There’s also a closed Facebook group and a Google Calendar available on request. It’s pretty relaxed, isn’t a meat market in any way, and so far we’ve managed to keep it free of creepy people looking to pick up by only spreading it by word-of-mouth. (I’m told that this one time, a guy came and waited until the end to say ‘so…we all know what happens now…’ and incurred the wrath of all, never to return.

As if this post were not sufficient in the way of information-saturation, please do add any of your useful links and recommendations in the comments!

More Heart Than Me

Two posts in one day!  What is this?   This one is a bit frivolous and retrospective, in line with my lofty ambitions to become more frivolous and retrospective.

Music has, as ever, been my saving grace in an upsy-downsie year, and so I’m sharing a few of the songs that have been stuck in my head throughout. (If everyone could just take a moment to forget that I said I’d compile a playlist for Zoe and haven’t as yet done so, that would be lovely.)   Some of these took quite a bit of finding, being rare/old/live, and the last one I think, is surely one of my theme songs for the year almost gone.

My Friend the Chocolate Cake – More Heart Than Me

Jeff Martin – Love The One You’re With (cover) – I don’t think a good video of this exists, so you’ll just have to go buy the album.  It’s just about my favourite love song of all time.

The Tallest Man on Earth – The Wheel – rare piano version; this just breaks my heart.

The Tallest Man on Earth – The Gardener

Billy Bragg – Greetings to the New Brunette

Machine Gun Fellatio – Unsent Letter

Nick Drake – Time Has Told Me

Pendulum – Propane Nightmares

Manic Street Preachers – You Stole the Sun from My Heart

Radiohead – No Surprises

Tom Waits – The Piano Has Been Drinking

The Triffids – Tender is the Night

Tool – Wings for Marie

Lou Reed – Perfect Day

Warren Zevon – Poor Poor Pitiful Me

Karnivool – Sleeping Satellite (cover)

Kaki King – Pull Me Out Alive

Amanda Palmer – In My Mind

But maybe it isn’t all that funny,
   but I’ve been fighting all my life.
   But maybe I have to think it’s funny,
   if I want to live before I die,
   and maybe it’s funniest of all, to think I’ll die before I actually see
   that I am exactly the person that I want to be.

 

And now.

I have all of these fragments of posts; the river, the garden, the mortgage belts, the city, maps, wanderings, chance meetings, the ends of the earth.

And – as so often – I’m not writing any of them, but am sitting around vaguely thinking about life, Rachmaninov, whisky, the universe and kitty.

I imagine it’s something to do with leaving Large Accounting Firm, painting more, raging less, and spending time at the gym and climbing, but I’ve got a peculiar feeling of being on the brink of something. Close to presque vu, but not quite. (If someone can give the correct name for what I’m feeling, I’ll buy them dinner. Fancy dinner. And then maybe we could make out on the couch and…wait, this is not the time nor the place. Ahem.)

I am given to understand that such feelings have much to do with the temporal lobes of one’s brain having a Moment which is quite exciting in itself, and I do feel it’s kinda sweet of my temporal lobes to troll me with a feeling of something, someone or somewhere soon. Pretty, existential vertigo.

For the moment, shiny illusions have not resolved themselves, and I’m currently working on settling into a new job, enjoying finally getting mobility and fitness back after the Stupid Bicycle Accident, and wondering what the next adventure will be. Oh, and propositioning a lot of people, with the goal of being Vegas-married to as many acquaintances as are willing. And so while the bigger posts simmer, find herein a small handful of links of various flavours.

Read them fast so we can run away to Vegas, sugarcube!

The Oatmeal on Tupperware

A tale of hoarding, in which I’m afraid I heard myself.

A nice idea for vertical gardening and pallet re-use.

David Foster Wallace on life and work.

Just about the best coat I’ve ever wanted.

Derek K Miller – The Last Post

20 Creative Public Works of Art

300 Days of Wikipedia

For years, I have been bookmarking articles of interest on Wikipedia.  There are several lengthy lists of Wikipedia articles floating around the web, but most of them have padded out the interesting articles with an assortment of conspiracies, UFOs and supposedly haunted houses.  And so, I thought I’d share the things that interest me – notably alien-encounter and ghost free.

While many of the articles on this list are work-friendly and generally inoffensive, do be aware that my interests sometimes stray into the gory, morbid and pornographic, and click accordingly.  If you come across any broken links, leave me a comment and I’ll fix them up.

001    2006 Mumbai sweet seawater incident
002    Acoustic Kitty
003    Acoustic Mirror
004    Action Park
005    Alexander Litvinenko Poisoning
006    Alternate reality game
007    Amber Room
008    Amelia Dyer
009    Ampelmännchen
010    Anna Anderson
011    Anscombe’s quartet
012    Ant on a rubber rope
013    Anthropic principle
014    Antikythera mechanism
015    Anti-pattern
016    Aokigahara
017    Aptostichus stephencolberti
018    Arbre du Ténéré
019    Argleton
020    As Slow As Possible
021    Assassin
022    Atari video game burial
023    Baby hatch
024    Bacon mania
025    Ballooning (spiders)
026    Battle of Los Angeles
027    Beale Ciphers
028    Committee to End Pay Toilets in America
029    Beaumont children disappearance
030    Benjaman Kyle
031    Berlin Wall
032    Berners Street Hoax
033    Bible errata
034    Bielefeld Conspiracy
035    Bigfin squid
036    Black Dahlia suspects
037    Black Swan Theory
038    Bloop
039    Bodil Joensen
040    Bogle-Chandler Case
041    Boston Molasses Disaster
042    Brainfuck (programming language)
043    Brian Wells (bank robber)
044    Bubbly Creek
045    Buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo
046    Burning Man
047    Cadaver Synod
048    Carl Tanzler
049    Centralia, Pennsylvania
050    Chappaquiddick incident
051    Checkpoint Charlie
052    Christine Chubbuck
053    Cincinnati Subway
054    Cleveland Torso Murders
055    Closed London Underground stations
056    Closed New York City Subway stations
057    Coastline paradox
058    Collinwood school fire
059    Collyer Brothers
060    Colonial Street
061    Color of water
062    Conspiracy 58
063    Corrupted Blood incident
064    Cosmic latte
065    Cross Bones
066    Crush, Texas
067    D. B. Cooper
068    D’Agapeyeff cipher
069    Dagen H
070    Dancing Mania
071    Dancing Plague of 1518
072    David Bain
073    Defeat in Detail
074    Defenestrations of Prague
075    Degree Confluence Project
076    Demon Core
077    Dérive
078    Digesting Duck
079    Distinguishing blue from green in language
080    Dollar Auction
081    Dorabella Ciper
082    Drake’s Plate of Brass
083    Dyatlov Pass Incident
084    Ebenezer Place
085    Eigengrau
086    Eltanin Antenna
087    Elvis taxon
088    Emperor Norton
089    Encounter
090    Enigma
091    ETAOIN SHRDLU
092    Eton wall game
093    Eugenia Falleni
094    Evolutionary psychology of religion
095    Fan Death
096    Fatso the Fat-Arsed Wombat
097    Fermi paradox
098    Fine Cotton
099    Flannan Isles
100    Forest swastika
101    Brown_Dog_affair
102    Friendly Floatees
103    Frost flower
104    Georgi Markov
105    Ghost stations of the Paris Métro
106    Glasgow Ice Cream Wars
107    Gloria Ramirez
108    GoldenPalace.com Monkey
109    Gravitational lensing
110    Great Fire of London
111    Great Pacific Garbage Patch
112    Green Belt Europe
113    Green Boots
114    Green Children of Woolpit
115    Gropecunt Lane
116    Guerrilla gardening
117    Guess 2/3 of the average
118    Hampton-on-Sea
119    Hannah Twynnoy
120    Harold Shipman
121    Hartford circus fire
122    Henry Darger
123    Herd instinct
124    HeroRAT
125    Hinterkaifeck
126    History of the World Wide Web
127    If-by-whiskey
128    Illegal prime
129    Information Cascade
130    IP over Avian Carriers
131    I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!
132    Ivory-billed Woodpecker
133    Jandek
134    Jeanne Calment
135    Jimmy Carter rabbit incident
136    John Murray Spear
137    John Titor
138    Joseph Force Crater
139    Joybubbles
140    June 1962 Alcatraz escape
141    June and Jennifer Gibbons
142    Kasper Hauser
143    Keron Thomas
144    Kilroy Was Here
145    Kitty Genovese
146    Kryptos
147    La choutte d’or
148    Lazarus taxon
149    Le_Rêve_(painting)
150    Lead Masks Case
151    Lech mich in Arsch
152    Let’s trim our hair in accordance with the socialist lifestyle
153    Limerence
154    Lina Medina
155    L’Inconnue de la Seine
156    Lizzie Borden
157    London Beer Flood
158    London Necropolis Company
159    London Pneumatic Despatch Company
160    Lord Lucan
161    Lost Doctor Who Episodes
162    Lost Dutchman’s Gold Mine
163    Louis Slotin
164    lp0 on fire
165    Mad Gasser of Mattoon
166    Magdalene asylum
167    Manhattanhenge
168    Manor of Northstead
169    Mary Toft
170    Max Headroom broadcast signal intrusion
171    Maze solving algorithm
172    McMartin preschool trial
173    Metal umlaut
174    Michael Larson
175    Michael Malloy
176    Milgram Experiment
177    Mir diamond pipe
178    Mitochondrial Eve
179    MKULTRA
180    Mobro 4000
181    Mojave phone booth
182    MONIAC Computer
183    Monty Hall Problem
184    Mornington Crescent (game)
185    Mortsafe
186    Moscow Metro 2
187    Münchausen by Internet
188    Nannie Doss
189    Nash equilibrium
190    National Hotel Disease
191    Nemesis (hypothetical star)
192    No soap radio
193    Nuclear football
194    Numbers Station
195    Oak island
196    Oliver Cromwell’s Head
197    One red paperclip
198    Onion Futures Act
199    Open source religion
200    Operation Mincemeat
201    Original Spanish Kitchen
202    Our Lady of the Angels school fire
203    Oxford English Dictionary
204    Parkinson’s Law of Triviality
205    Patent medicine
206    Patricia Pulling
207    Percussive Maintenance
208    Phineas Gage
209    Pigeon photography
210    Pirate loot problem
211    Pitch drop experiment
212    Poe Toaster
213    Poisoning of Alexander Litvinenko
214    Pole of inaccessibility
215    Post-mortem photography
216    Presecutor’s fallacy
217    Prisoner’s dilemma
218    Psychogeography
219    Publius Enigma
220    Quantum suicide thought experiment
221    R. Budd Dwyer
222    Raymond Robinson (Green Man)
223    Red Barn Murder
224    Red Rain in Kerala
225    Republic of Indian Stream
226    Resignation from the British House of Commons
227    Richey Edwards
228    Ricky McCormick’s encrypted notes
229    RKO Forty Acres
230    Roanoke Colony
231    Robert Shields (diarist)
232    Rogue wave
233    Rongorongo
234    Rosenhan Experiment
235    S. A. Andrée’s Arctic balloon expedition of 1897
236    Safety coffin
237    Sailing Stones
238    Salish Sea human foot discoveries
239    Sedlec Ossuary
240    Semantic satiation
241    Seven Bridges of Königsberg
242    Shape of the Universe
243    Shugborough inscription
244    Slow Down (unidentified sound)
245    Snuff film
246    Snuffy’s Parents Get a Divorce
247    Social engineering
248    Social traps
249    Solved game
250    Spite House
251    Spring Heeled Jack
252    Stanford Prison Experiment
253    Subterranean Rivers of London
254    Taman Shud
255    Tamworth Two
256    Tanganyika laughter epidemic
257    The Aristocrats (joke)
258    The Bottle Imp
259    The Hum
260    The Incident at Petrich
261    The Third Wave
262    Three Hundred and Thirty Five Years’ War -
263    Tidal locking
264    Tower Subway
265    Toynbee tiles
266    Tragedy of the commons
267    Trap street
268    Traveling salesman problem
269    Trepanning
270    Treva Throneberry
271    Trolley problem
272    Tube Map
273    Tulip mania
274    Tupper’s self-referential formula
275    Turritopsis nutricula
276    Tyche (hypothetical planet)
277    Tyranny of small decisions
278    Ultimatum game
279    Uncanny valley
280    Underarm bowling incident of 1981
281    Underground City, Montreal
282    Unexpected hanging paradox
283    Utah teapot
284    UVB-76
285    Valentich Disappearance
286    Verona
287    Voynich manuscript
288    Wardriving
289    Watermelon Snow
290    Whitechapel Murders
291    Who put Bella in the Wych Elm?
292    Wick Effect
293    Wicked Bible
294    Wife Selling
295    William Herbert Wallace
296    Williamson Tunnels
297    Winchester Mystery House
298    Wittenoom
299    Wow! Signal
300    Zero-sum game

In hard times, post Link Soup.

Work has been devouring all my energy and enthusiasm lately, so there’s not been much left for writing and Twitter and answering email. I’ve been just about keeping up with events in the Middle East (oh, Gaddafi…) and Japan (oh, Fukushima…) but that’s it. (Four more months then I’m free to start looking for a job that gives me the time and intellectual energy to purse the things that interest me; to write, to activist, to create, to connect, to run, to ride, to better participate in the world.)

In non-work-complaining-related news, I’m going to run the Melbourne Marathon in October. It’s bigger and harder and more interesting than anything I’ve done before, and will require some dedicated running over the next few months to get to a point where I’m even capable of the distance. Melbourne is a more attractive option than either the Perth Marathon (insufficient time to prepare) or the City to Surf Marathon (horrible, hilly course), and it will be fun to make the trip over for it.

I’m also taking some annual leave (hurrah) to do the Great WA Bike Ride next week. Upwards of 500km over nine days, camping, the beautiful south-west of the state…I can’t wait! I will be taking one of the cameras, so pics will be forthcoming.

Now, in lieu of interesting and/or original content, some link soup for you:

A great article from ars technica on Anyonymous and the HBGary hack.

Freshwater diving and snorkelling in South Australia – oh my, I want to do this so badly!

BoxCar2D, an entertaining little project about digital evolution.

A deeply disturbing but fascinatingly detailed article on one of the worst school fires in America’s history.

A showcase of beautiful photos taken on iPhones, helpfully citing the apps that were used to generate each image.

Another ars technica piece, this time on the topic of unsecured IP security cameras.

A wonderful article from The New Yorker on art, science, detection and fraud.

And finally, I was delighted to find last month that people are still using the Gopher protocol.  And that that Floodgap makes it super accessible on a browser.  Holy internet archaeology, Batman!

Random Link Round-Up Thursday

Those of you who were absorbed into my cult of Dreamteam last year may be interested to see the recent announcement addressing the changes arising from the post Gold-Coast rejig for the 2011 AFL season: [Link]

An old but good post from Ken My-Go-To-Photography-Man Rockwell on how to enjoy photography more while carrying less gear: [Link]

Deep Sea News has put together a great post on the problem with plastic water bottles: [Link]

A New York Times article on endurance training and the topic of ‘how to push past the pain as the champions do’ (spoiler: there is no secret – you just run until it hurts, and you run until you know the track, and then you run some more): [Link]

Here’s a thoughtful piece on on procrastination from The New Yorker and a response from BigThink: [Link] and [Link]

Check out the website of installation artist Jason de Caires Taylor, featuring photographs of his eerie underwater sculptures: [Link]

An interesting exercise in data visualisation at Flight & Expulsion on the subject of refugees - be sure to check out the different tabs and mouse over the map: [Link]

Obits for Benoit Mandelbrot at The Atlantic and Philippa Foot over at the New York Times; the world is two great minds the poorer: [Link] and [Link]

And finally, some more deliciousness from The Oatmeal, this time on the topic of How To Pet A Kitty: [Link]

Happiness Elsewhere

A recent post over on the Wired Science blog reminded me that I have been neglecting my favourite subject lately, discussing as it does the way in which happiness and sadness appear to fit the infectious disease model in large social networks. The Wired article leans a little far towards generalisation and pop-science for my taste, but the original study looks quite interesting and has made me wonder about the underlying assumptions, methodology and data set.

Looking through my bookmarks, it turns out that over the past few months I’ve hoarded quite a number of interesting articles on life, happiness and well-being.  In March, Scott Berkun wrote something that really challenges me to read, dealing as it does with being unbusy, being still and cultivating time.  It’s called The Cult of Busy.

Last month Dave Navarro (no relation) from Rock Your Day posted How To Stop Telling Your Sad, Sad Story, which I really loved; it’s such an ass-kicking.

Over at Fora.tv, you can watch Is The Pursuit of Happiness Making Us Miserable (which is probably is, if we take ‘happiness’ to mean hedonic pleasure).

Tim Ferris has written an epic piece on vagabonding, simplicity, travel and well-being.

Everyone’s been writing about Stuff versus Experience this year. There are posts on Unclutterer and CNN and The Frontal Cortex. This is something I wrote about some time ago, at least in relation to my personal experience, and it’s interesting to see it unfolding elsewhere.

On a slightly bigger scale, The Atlantic has an article from back in February on What Makes Cities Happy.

And lastly, the FlowingData blog has these two wry charts: Flowchart to lifelong happiness, and Path to happiness gets complicated and confusing.  FlowingData blog, you make me happy.

Welcome To Leftovers-Night

This post is like a Leftovers-Night dinner.  You’ll see.

Right now I’m doing some work that involves re-running a model through twenty or so different scenarios, and each run takes around a minute, so I have Notepad up and am using the runtime to write. It feels like a luxury to have some time to start thinking about having a page to fill with words.

I’ve been trying to manage the number of hours I’ve been spending in the office, but even when I’ve been able do that, the intensity of the last month has been something to behold. There’s not much I’m able to say about it in a public forum, but it involves a lot more responsibility and a whole bunch of time-critical work. I’m hopeful October will see a promotion, as I feel there’s a significant mismatch between the level I’m on and the work I’m doing.

Over the past month, the last module of my professional qualification has started up, so I’m studying and involved in a bunch of other things too. I know it’s something I come back to time after time here, but the struggle to manage commitments seems to be something of an ongoing theme in my life. I made a mind-map while I was having lunch yesterday, and even though many things spawned sub-commitments and began to ooze from the edges of the A4 page, it feels better to have the majority of it laid out.

Out of everything I’m doing at the moment, passing the last module of my Grad Dip CA is far and away the most significant one when it comes to my long term well-being. In part, this is because repeating will be a very expensive exercise, but more because the timing of finishing the course directly relates to when I’ll be free to leave Large Accounting Firm without having to repay my sizable study debt. ‘Freedom, horrible freedom!’ as they say. (‘I’m the Queen!’ ‘No you’re not!’)

What else? Oh yes, the week just gone has been a shocker when it’s come to mental health – by far the worst in recent times. While horrible, the upside of this has been that I’ve managed to get through it without messing up anything significant, which is quite exciting – my ability to manage depressive episodes has really lifted in the past couple of years, and this is a topic I’d like to write more on at a later date.

Other than that…well. I’ve seen The Mountain Goats, Jeff Martin and Henry Rollins recently. Rollins was doing his Frequent Flyer spoken word tour, and I don’t think I have anything near the articulacy to express how moving and inspiring I found it. The man is a spectacularly interesting human being, and I find much of his discussion around depression, adventure, happiness and human experience to be almost painfully resonant. (I’m selfishly frustrated that he’s famous, because if he weren’t it would be easier to say ‘hey mate, come have a drink with me and we’ll talk about life the universe and everthing’.)

Musicwise, I’ve been obsessing over a few things, mostly relating to recent gigs. Jeff Martin’s Live in Dublin album is excellent, and I would strongly suggest getting it from iTunes if you haven’t already. portabledave has also put me onto The Tallest Man On Earth aka Kristian Mattson, a profoundly Dylan-esque folk muso from Denmark whose new album, The Wild Hunt, I’ve had on repeat. And then there’s the latest Mountain Goats album, The Life of the World to Come, which has this song about the thylacine, the dodo and the golden toad which just about moves me to tears every time, because (like most Australians?) I’m well aware of the heartbreaking footage they’re referring to in the first verse:

The sun above me and a concrete floor below
Scratch at the chain links maybe bare my teeth for show
Fed twice a day I don’t go hungry anymore
Feel in my bones just what the future has in store
I pace in circles so the camera will see
Look hard at my stripes, there’ll be no more after me

Laze by the shoreline while the sailors disembark
Scratch out a place to sit and rest down in the dark
Smell something burning downwind just a little ways
They set up camp and sing and sweat and work for days
I have no fear of anyone I’m dumb and wild and free
I am a flightless bird and there’ll be no more after me

In Costa Rica in a burrow underground
Climb to the surface, blink my eyes and look around
I’m all alone here as I try my tiny song
Claim my place beneath the sky but i won’t be here for long
I sang all night the moon shone on me through the trees
No brothers left and there’ll be no more after me
(- Deuteronomy 2:10)

And finally, a few links that I’ve stumbled across and appreciated in recent weeks:

Politics, News, Eggs and Link Spam

The last couple of weeks have been rather a hive of political activity.

I suppose everyone’s seen the WikiLeaks / CollateralMurder.com news unless they’ve been off-planet for the Easter break. I’m not sure I can add anything by commenting on this; it speaks – poignantly and heartbreakingly – for itself.

Malcolm Turnbull announced on Tuesday that he won’t be running in the coming Federal Election, and interestingly first released the news on Twitter. I respected him, appreciated the direction in which he attempted to steer conservative Australia, and I’m genuinely sorry to see him go. Later in the day, Nationals MP, Kay Hull, announced she wouldn’t be contesting the 2010 election either, a decision that may shake things up a little if the Libs start eyeing her seat of Riverina.

In state politics over in Tasmania, the hung parliamant saga goes on. And on. While Labor on ten seats appear keen to handball the ordeal of minority government over to the Libs (also on ten), the Tassie Greens are using their five seats to broker a power-sharing agreement. Meanwhile, the whole mess will fall into the lap of Tasmania’s Governor, and I will rant angrily yet predictably about the monarchy after a few drinks down at the pub. Interestingly, this peculiar situation isn’t an entirely unprecedented one; anyone remember the 1989 Tasmanian Election and its aftermath, or are we all too young?

Running a little ahead of Australia, the Brits have called their general election. Gordon Brown is playing the middle-class card for all he’s worth, and the Greens have fielded the largest number of candidates in the party’s history. For anyone interested in following the action, The Guardian are running a very comprehensive, live-updating site. (I found out today that the Home Office has granted my citizenship application, but of course as a non-resident I’m not eligible to vote.)

Possum over at Crikey has written a good piece on politicking, bad statistics and immigration: Net Arrivals

And finally there’s been much said recently on the topic of the institutionalised protection of child sex offenders by the Catholic Church. Michael Nugent from Athiest Ireland posted a critical analysis of Ratzinger’s apology a couple of weeks ago on his blog. As an ex-Catholic, and indeed as a human being, this is a topic that fills me with a cold, cold rage, and it impresses me to see someone with the capacity write so rationally and analytically on the subject, rather than mirroring the vitriolic rant to which I would be inclined to descend.

Hurrah for Link Spammage

As boxer_the_horse says,’sometimes the internet is great!’ So, in lieu of me actually managing to finish writing a post of my own, let’s have a look at some random internet squishiness.

To begin with, I’m obsessed with the Michael Buble Being Stalked By A Velociraptor blog at the moment.  Gosh it’s great; that raptor lurking in the crowd or behind the curtains cracks me up.  I just keep randomly going to the site and giggling about it, even when there aren’t any new ones up.

BBC Wildlife is offering a series of free PDFs in the Photo Masterclasses series.    Covering a wide variety of topics from birds in flight to photographing wildlife at dusk and dawn, they’re well worth a look.

A couple of weeks ago, I stumbled across the concept of Demand Resistance which describes me so very well, and links in with procrastination, perfectionism and anxiety.  I promised to send information on this to a number of people, so here’s a link and here’s another with some good information in the comments.

I have a feeling I may have linked Visual Complexity before, but it’s still beautiful and there’s always something new to see. In fact, one of the things I discovered there this morning was a link to Sourcemap:open supply chains, a tool for researching and sharing where things come from.

Here’s a tribute to New Zealand-born photojournalist Margaret Moth who died earlier this month, and to her fascinating and adventurous life.

And finally, photographers, travellers, architecture enthusiasts and UrbExers, check out this Russian LiveJournaller who has taken a set photos of abandoned churches.

Yes, sometimes the internet is great!

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